Today’s post deviates from the normal recipe. I have had reflective thoughts moving around my head, so I thought I would share.
- Success is not only hard work. We, unfortunately, live in an unfair world. No matter how hard we work at the end of the day we can still be robbed of the thing we want most. Success is equal parts preparation and opportunity. If you get rejected from a job, internship, or fail a test understand that you only have control over your input, but at the end if the opportunity never manifests itself it is not your fault. You do not have control over everything. Work hard. Dream. But remember you have only control on your input.
- Less is more. Growing up forging friendships has always been difficult. I am an outgoing, positive, stubborn person who may be an acquired taste. I have learned through the years that it is more important to surround myself with a few amazing people, then a large group of meh people.
- Things are not as they seem. As a teenager, in the social media generation, I have recognized that not all posts on the web are true. Social media is heavily fabricated. People only post when they are doing something incredible. I mean, no one wants to see someone post a picture of doing the dishes or laundry.
- Everything does not happen for a reason. I was a firm believer in the idea that everything happens for a reason. Anytime the world did not go in my favor I would use this as a rationale. However, being apart of a world where violence, adversity, and horror are common, I don’t want to accept that these things happen for a reason. The little girl who lost her father, or the mother who lost her son are events that do not contain a reason. Sometimes things just happen. They cannot be explained.
- You can only take care of yourself. This is something that was so difficult for me to learn. Anytime I see someone I know upset, I want to drop everything and take care of that person. I have learned that you can only do so much. At the end of the day, if that person is still broken, you need to understand that you have done enough. Your health is paramount. Your unhappiness for that person’s situation will not make that person’s situation better. Live life, love, be happy. Help those going through a rough patch, but at the end if that person is still in the dark– move on. No matter what you do it is that person’s choice to feel better.
Well, that’s it for this reflections post. I just had all these lessons shuffled in my head, so I thought I’d share. If you agree (or disagree) or have something else you’ve learned that has changed your life– comment below.